A Season Of Grief

My son called me in mid September. He couldn’t figure out why he was beginning to feel so sad. “It’s because of the er’s” I said. “The what? He asked.” “You know, September, October and November. The er’s, I replied. The months that remind us that Konnor left us.” Grief is similar to depression in […]

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Konnor’s Lullaby: Reflections on Grieving five years later

This year marks the five year anniversary of Konnor’s passing. As November creeps in I again begin to feel moody, emotional, tired. Death anniversaries force grievers to relive the events of the worst day of their lives. The loss already haunts us, the anniversary opens the wound. No matter how long ago it was the […]

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Rest In Peace And Me In Pieces

Here it is again. The anniversary of his passing. Bittersweet November. The first snowfall I can’t help but think of Konnor, he passed the day after that first snowfall of 2015. A blizzard, then a stillness. A quiet I will never forget as I made my way to the hospital that dreadful day. The only […]

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Becoming Melancholy: How My Grandson’s Death Changed The Way I Live

I continue to learn and grow as this new person I have become, a griever making my re-entry back into life among those untouched by loss. In adjusting to the new me I have come to accept things about myself that at first I assumed were temporary. I now know that I am permanently changed. […]

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Lessons From My Shower: Time To Come Clean About Grief And Me

There are personal spaces where grievers feel safe and secure enough to expose our open wounds. It is within these spaces we grieve alone. Hidden in the safety. Of these places we express our raw, ravaged souls. These private, some not so private places were and still are inescapable. Whether encapsulated in our vehicle or […]

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Children And Loss: Warning Signs of Unresolved Grief

Putting yourself back together after the loss of a loved one is a timeless process. Grief is a journey without an end. Yes, grief is yielding. It does eventually become less painful, the mercy of time easing to an ache. Although the gut-wrenching agony has passed, who we were and who we are now is […]

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